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A good parent is someone who strives to make decisions in the best interests of their child. Good parents don’t have to be perfect. No one is perfect. No kid is perfect … It’s important to keep that in mind when we set expectations. Successful parenting is not about achieving perfection. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t work towards that goal. Let’s set high standards first for ourselves and then for our children. We act as their role model.
Here are 10 tips for learning good parenting skills and avoiding bad parenting. Many of them are neither quick nor easy. And perhaps no one can do them all the time. But if you can keep working on the tips of this parenting guide, you’ll continue to move in the right direction, even if you do some of them only a few times.
1. Be a good role model
Walk the talk. Don’t just tell your child what you want them to do. Show them.
Humans are a special species, partly because they can learn through imitation. We are programmed to copy and understand the behavior of others and include them in ourselves. Children in particular pay attention to everything their parents do.
So let’s be the one you want to be your child: respect your child, show positive behavior and attitude, empathize with your child’s emotions, and your child will do the same.
2. Love them and show them through action
Loving your child cannot ruin them. When things are given instead of true love, this is when you have a spoiled child.
Loving your child is as easy as hugging them, spending time with them, and listening seriously to their problems every day. Showing these acts of love can cause the release of pleasing hormones such as oxytocin. These neurochemicals can give us calm, emotional warmth, and satisfaction. This will help your child develop resilience, not to mention a closer relationship with you.
3. Practice kind and firm positive parenting
Babies are born with about 100 billion brain cells (neurons) that have relatively few connections. These connections generate our thoughts, drive our actions, shape our personality, and basically determine who we are. They are created, enhanced, and “engraved” through experience throughout our lives. Give your child a positive experience. They experience positive experiences for themselves and have the ability to present them to others. Give your child a negative experience. They don’t have the kind of development needed to prosper.
Sing that ridiculous song. Hold a tickling marathon. Go to the park. Laugh with your child. Overcome emotional explosions. Solve the problem with a positive attitude. These positive experiences not only make good connections to your child’s brain but also shape the memories that your child will carry with them for the rest of their lives.
Being a good parent means teaching your child the morals of what is right and what is wrong. Setting boundaries and maintaining consistency is the key to good discipline. Be polite and firm when enforcing these rules. Focus on the reasons behind the child’s behavior. And instead of punishing the past, make it an opportunity to learn for the future.
4. Be a safe haven for your child
If you respond to a child’s cues and are sensitive to their needs, let your child know that you are always there for them. Personally support and accept your child. Become a warm and safe haven for your children.
Children raised by consistently responsive parents tend to develop better as a result of emotional regulation, social skills development, and mental health.
5. Talk with your child and help their brains integrate
By maintaining open communication, you will have a better relationship with your child and your child will come to you when problems arise. But there is another reason to communicate. It helps the child integrate different parts of the brain.
Integration is similar to our body in that different organs need to work together and work together to maintain a healthy body. When different parts of the brain are integrated, they can function in harmony as a whole. This means less tantalum, more cooperative behavior, more empathy, and better mental health.
To do this, talk about the experience you are worried about. Ask the child to explain what happened and how it felt to develop harmonious communication. You don’t have to provide a solution. You don’t have to have all the answers to be a good parent. Simply listening to them and asking descriptive questions will help them understand their experiences and integrate their memories.
